The loss here is not the money. I've known this girl for 11 years. By now she is a close friend of the family and both our lives will be very different now.
The guy she dated before me knocked her up and that's ultimately what this is about. Because of this they were always forced to stay in contact because they have joint custody (although I told her not to agree to that at the time). Her daughter is almost 3 now and is more of a little girl and less of a baby so she felt the desire to "rebuild her family." Part of me is surprised that this guy even took her back since she left him for me which ultimately resulted in taking away his daughter for a good amount of the time. I can only guess that he doesn't have much self-respect and wants to see his daughter more. Probably doesn't hurt that the girl in question is a 10.
I'm not a parent and thus might not understand the logic involved here but i'm sure their are lessons to learn.