007, I have a duaghter and a son. I wanna know with whom they hang out. I always insist on meeting parents before a stayover.

On my girl's 11th b'day party, the whole gang stayed over - 5 boys, 7 girls. All slept in one room, too.

Would never have happened if I did not know each kid well, and their backgrounds. Trusting your kids' judgement is only fine if they have an example of good judgement.

So, I don't think you're paranoid, I just think you're offering a solid example to follow.