$600 Shoes

[3irty1]

My lady wants to spend my money on a $600 pair of shoes. She's had her eye on them for years so at least its not impulse. That's pretty wild but here's what I want your opinion on the next part.

I managed to find knockoffs of the same shoes for $100. I showed them to her and she was completely turned off because "they're not real." She equated buying those shoes to buying cubic zirconia jewelry. I guess I felt like it was more like buying a synthetic diamond... if synthetic diamonds were cheap.

She's a psycho right?

[HowardRoark]

She's a psycho right?

Redundant.

[mraynrand]

My lady wants to spend my money on a $600 pair of shoes. She's had her eye on them for years so at least its not impulse. That's pretty wild but here's what I want your opinion on the next part.

I managed to find knockoffs of the same shoes for $100. I showed them to her and she was completely turned off because "they're not real." She equated buying those shoes to buying cubic zirconia jewelry. I guess I felt like it was more like buying a synthetic diamond... if synthetic diamonds were cheap.

She's a psycho right?

Ya think? I bought my first car for less, and it probably got better milage.

[Little Whiskey]

naaaa thats normal. she probably can't understand why you've picked up another packer jersey, or why you spend all that money on the NFL package to watch some dumb football game, or why you would give you left nut for sideline seats at lambeau, or why the hell your trying to throw away your perfectly good tv for some enormous flat screen that has to hang on the wall.

[3irty1]

Hehe that's really not me. I'm not a cheap guy per se but the things I enjoy do come cheap. I'm not a big jersey, or anything, collector and watch my football on a humble 32" LCD. But if I wanted that stuff she'd be right behind it, she's arguably a bigger Packer fan than I am. My disposable income goes to her as she'll ultimately get more enjoyment out of it than I would.

I've accepted that she wants $600 shoes. Its the turning down the knockoffs part that I don't understand. These are the shoes:

http://www.kristopherdukes.com/images/Christian-Louboutin-shoes-Declic.gif

They are shoes, meaning the knockoffs are inherently identical in looks and performance. How can the label means that much to her?! I need one of our lady-rats to explain this.

[MJZiggy]

Are you married to her? If the answer is no, why is she spending your money? If the answer is yes, why did you marry a woman who wears $600 shoes?

I think the most I've spent on shoes in my life is $67. There is no such thing as the cubic zirconia of shoes unless the knockoffs are pleather. What makes a shoe worth $600 anyway? (keeping in mind that shoes get scuffed, wet, dirty and are meant to protect your feet)

My thoughts. It ain't a girl thing either LW. It's a personality thing. I am coveting a Matthews jersey this year but don't have hope of finding one out here.

[mraynrand]

Hehe that's really not me. I'm not a cheap guy per se but the things I enjoy do come cheap. I'm not a big jersey, or anything, collector and watch my football on a humble 32" LCD. But if I wanted that stuff she'd be right behind it, she's arguably a bigger Packer fan than I am. My disposable income goes to her as she'll ultimately get more enjoyment out of it than I would.

I've accepted that she wants $600 shoes. Its the turning down the knockoffs part that I don't understand. These are the shoes:

http://www.kristopherdukes.com/images/Christian-Louboutin-shoes-Declic.gif

They are shoes, meaning the knockoffs are inherently identical in looks and performance. How can the label means that much to her?! I need one of our lady-rats to explain this.

Those things will really dig into your shoulder blades.

[3irty1]

Are you married to her? If the answer is no, why is she spending your money? If the answer is yes, why did you marry a woman who wears $600 shoes?

I think the most I've spent on shoes in my life is $67. There is no such thing as the cubic zirconia of shoes unless the knockoffs are pleather. What makes a shoe worth $600 anyway? (keeping in mind that shoes get scuffed, wet, dirty and are meant to protect your feet)

My thoughts. It ain't a girl thing either LW. It's a personality thing. I am coveting a Matthews jersey this year but don't have hope of finding one out here.

No we're not married. She's not spending my money but she wants to. On shoes. I've known her for ten years and she's not as high maintenance as I'm making her sound. She's going through a thing I imagine many hot chicks go through when they are 27. Pretty crazy notion in its own right since she still fits into her clothes from highschool and imo has never looked better. I told her that she's the same age as Tramon Williams but that didn't seem to cheer her up as much as I thought it would.

Anyways, you agree with me on the shoes. The fakes aren't made with lesser materials but instead are simply priced the way they aren't the originals which were designed by a French guy. If it were me who were enamored with a pair of shoes I'd want the knockoffs so I didn't feel as bad when I put the first scuff in them. Also you also sound like my mother who until age 50 had never paid for anything at retail price. Not that theres anything wrong with that.

[mraynrand]

I told her that she's the same age as Tramon Williams but that didn't seem to cheer her up as much as I thought it would.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=48DRmVVk5N8

[Freak Out]

Get her a diamond instead.

[Little Whiskey]

Get her a diamond instead.

or a knock off? :D

Zig, I'm not saying its an every girl thing i'm saying its normal that different people enjoy different things. for instance, my wife doesn't enjoy sports. she can't understand why i get worked up on game day. However, she is a huge history buff, I don't understand how we can spend 3 days in Williamsburg and thats not enough time or why she crys as we walk thru Gettysburg. similarly, she donates to those type of foundations because its important to her and i donate to the green and gold because its important to me.

one last thing, 31. if she is a bigger fan than you, why isn't she on here? sign her ass up!

[Iron Mike]

Get her a diamond instead.

Screw that.....get her 60 bottles of Stinky Gringo tequila, instead.

http://www.inet-web.com/files/stinkygringobottle.png

[3irty1]

one last thing, 31. if she is a bigger fan than you, why isn't she on here? sign her ass up!

Too late now. I've already called her a psycho.

[Little Whiskey]

one last thing, 31. if she is a bigger fan than you, why isn't she on here? sign her ass up!

Too late now. I've already called her a psycho.

use the edit button.

[3irty1]

one last thing, 31. if she is a bigger fan than you, why isn't she on here? sign her ass up!

Too late now. I've already called her a psycho.

use the edit button.

She loves watching the games and enjoys the food/parties involved but she's not the type to speculate about the team in the offseason, or care about the draft, or know who Sam Shields is. I say she's arguably a bigger fan because she has Packer license plates, owns about 3x more jerseys and will ram someone in traffic just for having a bears bumper sticker.

Unless PR is starting another forum revolving around Packer clothes and instead of a posters game we start a yearly trip to tent sale, she won't have any interest in joining. She pretty much hates all the time I spend on here.

[red]

yeah that's freaking nuts. 600 bucks for something she won't wear every day

its not like there is a giant logo on the side that would give away the knockoffs as a knockoff. i comes down to ego i think, knowing she's wearing 600 dollar shoes and telling her friends about them.

although if she's as hot as you say then you might want to let her buy the shoes so she does get pissed and bolt out the door on you

[3irty1]

yeah that's freaking nuts. 600 bucks for something she won't wear every day

its not like there is a giant logo on the side that would give away the knockoffs as a knockoff. i comes down to ego i think, knowing she's wearing 600 dollar shoes and telling her friends about them.

although if she's as hot as you say then you might want to let her buy the shoes so she does get pissed and bolt out the door on you

She'll get the shoes eventually. She's had her eye on them, and she might actually wear them everyday. She'll probably just buy them herself. She knows that I can't get them for her now, at least not as a surprise because she'd always be skeptical that I bought her the knockoffs. The only way she could know for sure that she got the real ones is to buy them in person in Chicago.

[MichiganPackerFan]

I am coveting a Matthews jersey this year but don't have hope of finding one out here.

There is this thing called the internet.... Im looking to pick up a Woodson one for my wife, but since she is also a UofM fan, i was thinking picking a Michigan Woodson one instead.

and yes, $600 for shoes is crazy, unless they are for work use (such as my college roommate's annual purchase of boots to hike to put out forest fires) Thank god my wife was happy with the 40" LCD we bought this weekend to enhance football season!!!

[hoosier]

Unless PR is starting another forum revolving around Packer clothes and instead of a posters game we start a yearly trip to tent sale, she won't have any interest in joining. She pretty much hates all the time I spend on here.

Sort of a Packer version of chick flics...What would we call it? The Pack for chicks? Only problem is, most of the chicks here don't strike me as that kind of chick.

[Cheesehead Craig]

I'd understand if they were thigh high leather boots, but not just a pair of high heels.

[CaptainKickass]

One thought about your lady and the $600 shoes -

Sometimes the ladies will attempt to get you to do "something" to make them feel like you really "love" them. Or to gauge how much you "value" them and your relationship. It's sort of an ego-power play.

IF this is the case - then a possible way out of spending the $600 is for you to simply devise a creative way of showing her how much she is worth/loved to you that hits her in the heart instead of hitting you in your wallet. Use your knowledge of her personal favorite things and tailor your "showing" around them. She'll feel extra special and loved because you were thoughtful and obviously listen to her. You'll feel awesome because you saved $600.

[3irty1]

One thought about your lady and the $600 shoes -

Sometimes the ladies will attempt to get you to do "something" to make them feel like you really "love" them. Or to gauge how much you "value" them and your relationship. It's sort of an ego-power play.

IF this is the case - then a possible way out of spending the $600 is for you to simply devise a creative way of showing her how much she is worth/loved to you that hits her in the heart instead of hitting you in your wallet. Use your knowledge of her personal favorite things and tailor your "showing" around them. She'll feel extra special and loved because you were thoughtful and obviously listen to her. You'll feel awesome because you saved $600.

I think I know what you are getting at. You want me to shave my pubes in the shape of a heart and dye them bright red. We'll give it a go.

No this is more about shoes than love.

[Sparkey]

let her get the shoes. Then you get this :

If you play it right, like i did, she will actually be as enthusiastic as you are:

http://www.2manytoyz.com/truck/dscn5359.jpg

[Little Whiskey]

let her get the shoes. Then you get this :

If you play it right, like i did, she will actually be as enthusiastic as you are:

http://www.2manytoyz.com/truck/dscn5359.jpg


why settle for the base model? no towing package? must be a city truck.

[mission]

I told her that she's the same age as Tramon Williams but that didn't seem to cheer her up as much as I thought it would..

Ok that seriously made me LOL :lol:

I feel your pain though... my girl is pretty low maintenance but every now and then surprises me with some "crazy" thing she wants. We went picking out some sunglasses for her birthday (without looking at prices) and the ones she wanted turned out to be $480 Tiffany's. Can't imagine buying something like that for myself, but I am kind of a sneaker freak and spend a lot of money golfing so I guess she felt OK going with those :?:

[mission]

let her get the shoes. Then you get this :

If you play it right, like i did, she will actually be as enthusiastic as you are:

http://www.2manytoyz.com/truck/dscn5359.jpg

ive got the same one... all black. sick truck (my first one)

she hates it and wants me to buy her one of those stupid two door toyota truck things :(

[Sparkey]

let her get the shoes. Then you get this :

If you play it right, like i did, she will actually be as enthusiastic as you are:

http://www.2manytoyz.com/truck/dscn5359.jpg


why settle for the base model? no towing package? must be a city truck.

Its an FX4, base model would not have a painted bumper. FX4 admonishes chrome in favor a more rugged look. 20" Tires, max towing package, 5.4 v8. BTW, I love the new 6 speed transmission in the 2010. Would have loved to get the 6.5 foot bed, but the garage was not quite long enough to accommodate. Added a spray in bedliner right away.

[Tony Oday]

I was married for 4 years and was with my ex for a total of 9...bought so many Coach Purses they sent cards on my birthday. Purses they use everyday and give you capital to purchase what you want or go on a guys weekend. $600 shoes are something that she wears three times and then decides they look good in the closet. F THAT

No way. Let her buy those shoes if she wants them.

[pbmax]

Its impossible to make sense of some people's preferences, and in a relationship its probably dangerous as well for personal items. The $600 version might be better made, or it might all be for the label. I can buy a pair of Men's shoes for $25 bucks and I'll be buying another $25 pair in 3 months if I wear them regularly. Or I could spend $125 on a much better pair, get them resoled for $35 every 6 months and keep them for years.

But in the end, none of that is important if those shoes are important to her. The only two legitimate questions are: "Does it fit the budget?" And "Is this some kind of crazy test that I will be repeating to prove she is still attractive enough every passing year?"

And really, who cares about the second question if the answer to the first question is yes? Its only when the first question is a no that trouble must be navigated.

[Scott Campbell]

My lady wants to spend my money on a $600 pair of shoes. She's had her eye on them for years so at least its not impulse. That's pretty wild but here's what I want your opinion on the next part.

I managed to find knockoffs of the same shoes for $100. I showed them to her and she was completely turned off because "they're not real." She equated buying those shoes to buying cubic zirconia jewelry. I guess I felt like it was more like buying a synthetic diamond... if synthetic diamonds were cheap.

She's a psycho right?




Run for your life. Don't think. Run.

[superfan]

$6300 suit? COME ON!

http://i.ytimg.com/vi/PTJpLBXGBkM/0.jpg

*Disclaimer - knowledge of Arrested Development required

[RashanGary]

Leave her now!

[MadtownPacker]

White boys are fucking stupid!

[3irty1]

I'm Mexican.

[red]

$6300 suit? COME ON!

http://i.ytimg.com/vi/PTJpLBXGBkM/0.jpg

*Disclaimer - knowledge of Arrested Development required



love it +1

i love how the value of the suit goes up every time he talks to someone in that episode

[MadtownPacker]

I'm Mexican.
I dont know what color your skin is but trust me you're not Mexican.

[3irty1]

My skin is white. She's white too. She's got the shoes too by the way. Honestly I wish I loved anything as much as she loves shoes.

[MJZiggy]

My skin is white. She's white too. She's got the shoes too by the way. Honestly I wish I loved anything as much as she loves shoes.

Ummmm...the Packers?

[3irty1]

We broke up. Once I got back from Alaska we moved to Milwaukee and things were good for a while but eventually she started getting frigid and strange with me. I asked her about her behavior and she told me that she was starting to grow curious about the guy she had dated before me. We decided to take a break and I moved in with a friend. I left a lot of my things over there that I wouldn't need LCD TV, laptop, etc. so she would have something to do after I was gone. She got the apt while I was in Alaska for the summer so the lease was only in her name but because I love her and wanted to help out, I continued to pay my half since she would never be able to afford the place on her own. We continued to talk and see each other regularly and it seemed like we were on the ups.

Dec 16th was her birthday and I called her and we had a nice talk. That evening I gave her a call and I didn't respond. I fell asleep and woke up at 3:00 AM. I watched shitty night TV for an hour and then turned it off and tried to sleep. My mind wandered and I started wondering about her. When I realized I wasn't going to fall back asleep, I drove over there to see if her car was home. It was. Then I spotted the car of the aforementioned guy before me. I came back later that morning and rang the buzzer until someone let me in to her building. Then knocked at her door until she answered. She said I couldn't come in because she had a "guest." I told her I just needed to grab some stuff and I started packing up my things. She was embarrassed, angry that I was there, and guilty at what I had caught her doing. As I was packing up my things I caught a glimpse of the guy in boxers. I told her that I wouldn't be back and I'd prefer it if I never saw her or spoke with her again. She cried and I left.

[MJZiggy]

We broke up. I told her that I wouldn't be back and I'd prefer it if I never saw her or spoke with her again. She cried and I left.

That really sucks. Like really.

[mraynrand]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cPRamRJnr_A&feature=related

[3irty1]

That really sucks. Like really.

You're telling me. I never thought something like this would ever happen to me.

[Scott Campbell]

That really sucks. Like really.


Sounds like it needed to happen, whether it sucked or not.

[Scott Campbell]

You're telling me. I never thought something like this would ever happen to me.


Congratulations for getting to get on with your life without having made a BIG mistake. Yeah, you're probably hurting, but she did you a big favor. A huge favor.

[Freak Out]

What the fuck are you doing in Milwaukee? Working or school? I think I should know but forgot why you went back after fishing....?

[MJZiggy]

Sounds like it needed to happen, whether it sucked or not.

Absolutely. But having been through it, it sucks. Important to remember it's a womAn problem, not a womEn problem.

[3irty1]

What the fuck are you doing in Milwaukee? Working or school? I think I should know but forgot why you went back after fishing....?

Doing both.

I go up and fish in the summers only.

[Little Whiskey]

Absolutely. But having been through it, it sucks. Important to remember it's a womAn problem, not a womEn problem.

zig, you had a woman break your heart? better not let Bretsky know about this!

[MJZiggy]

zig, you had a woman break your heart? better not let Bretsky know about this!
Yes. She slept with my boyfriend. Her husband wasn't too happy about the idea either.

[swede]

Zig, maybe the guys in North America who HAVEN'T slept with her should form a club. I could be the president.

[swede]

Disqualified. Somebody else will have to start it now.

[MJZiggy]

Disqualified. Somebody else will have to start it now.

:lol::lol: I'd say enjoy the syphilis, but that all happened 20 years ago so who knows if either of them have their lives together or whether the marriage survived.

[CaptainKickass]

Wow 31, sorry to hear but it sounds like you got hornswaggled.


Morals of the story:


If you're not "gettin' any" from your lover - someone else is.

Don't spend a shit ton of $$ on gifts for others, especially if you aren't incredibly wealthy. Buy gifts for yourself instead.

When you move out of a place, and your name is not on the lease, do not continue to pay rent or bills at that place.

When you move out of said place, take all your stuff with you immediately, even if you have to find additional storage.

And of course...

If your lady asks you to spend $600.00 of YOUR $$ for a pair of shoes, the answer should be "no". Then you should immediately contemplate the validity of said relationship.

Did I miss any?

[Scott Campbell]

Yeah, you did.

[3irty1]

Wow 31, sorry to hear but it sounds like you got hornswaggled.


Morals of the story:


If you're not "gettin' any" from your lover - someone else is.

Don't spend a shit ton of $$ on gifts for others, especially if you aren't incredibly wealthy. Buy gifts for yourself instead.

When you move out of a place, and your name is not on the lease, do not continue to pay rent or bills at that place.

When you move out of said place, take all your stuff with you immediately, even if you have to find additional storage.

And of course...

If your lady asks you to spend $600.00 of YOUR $$ for a pair of shoes, the answer should be "no". Then you should immediately contemplate the validity of said relationship.

Did I miss any?

The loss here is not the money. I've known this girl for 11 years. By now she is a close friend of the family and both our lives will be very different now.

The guy she dated before me knocked her up and that's ultimately what this is about. Because of this they were always forced to stay in contact because they have joint custody (although I told her not to agree to that at the time). Her daughter is almost 3 now and is more of a little girl and less of a baby so she felt the desire to "rebuild her family." Part of me is surprised that this guy even took her back since she left him for me which ultimately resulted in taking away his daughter for a good amount of the time. I can only guess that he doesn't have much self-respect and wants to see his daughter more. Probably doesn't hurt that the girl in question is a 10.

I'm not a parent and thus might not understand the logic involved here but i'm sure their are lessons to learn.