Pass on to Women you care about. :-)

[RashanGary]

If I had to change the child support law, I'd change it to 85% of the average state income as a maximum. If an average family earns 50,000 then the child support recipient should get 45,000 or so maximum. If the recipiant wants to live a higher life style than that, they should have planned that out in advance and should have some personal responsibility to earn it.

People getting two and three thousand dollars per month, well the payer of the child support should have thought that through. There should be personal repsonsiblity on both ends.

Most circumstances are pretty fair. Tough because divorce seems like a real hell hole, but fair. It's the times where a person pays no support because the payer is such a loser and can't keep a job or the times where the payer is a millionaire. Both situations are not fair.

[MJZiggy]

Are you drunk?

[RashanGary]

Are you drunk?

007 is recalling a time when I bitched about Urlacher's child support. I had to reiterate my position on that.

[MJZiggy]

So your position is that men should have to pay women 45K annually in child support?

[RashanGary]

So your position is that men should have to pay women 45K annually in child support?

I edited it to say "maximum". That's what I meant but I punched my post out in usual hastily wastily fashion (and it depends on the state average)

[RashanGary]

17% for one child seems fair. I don't know the rate after that. There should be a max though.

[GrnBay007]

Wow, this thread transgressed into something I didn't expect...lol I wanted you guys to pass it on to those you care about.

Little history behind this posting...

My ex boss sent me this email. He and his wife are now retired in Florida and I have remained friends with them. For anyone that would know him, they would be shocked he sent this. He was a very tough boss and didn't take any shit. He did not come off as the sensitive type at all. When I was going through my divorce and he knew I was having a rough time, he called me in his office for a "talk". He knew my biggest fears were how the divorce would affect my kids. Said he knew I could take care of myself. Told me sometimes it's better to have a single parent then to have to have two living together not getting along. It touched me that he took the time and opened up enough to tell me that as he was kind of a grumpy guy.

It's kinda crazy in a good kind of way how things have gone....so far. I can honestly say I feel I have a better relationship with my kids and we are closer than we would be had I still been married. Maybe that's because my focus is only on them ....I don't know. Sometimes I wonder how I deserved to have such good kids...honor roll and athletic. They say you shouldn't try to be "friends" with your kids until they are adults. I think there is a fine line there....my kids talk to me about things I would never have talked to my parents about. The fact that they feel they can open up about their feelings makes me feel good. Communication/trust/openness is such a key to raising teens these days......we are approaching those years, Lord, I hope they continue to feel they can talk to me. That's not to say there isn't discipline. I'm such a weirdo in that I like to time how long it takes them to talk to me again after they are mad they are told "no" or are grounded or sent to their room. It doesn't take long....love it.

[GrnBay007]

There should be personal repsonsiblity on both ends.

Agree completely.

I don't remember our argument on Urlacher. I'm sure I was right though..LOL :P