WHY?????

[Mazzin]

Last night around 9:45 my sister Jamie calls me and tells me, and the family that her son Ty (my nephew) was in the hospital. Of course none of us thought it was as serious as it really was due to her sounding so calm. But this morning at around 3:30 she called crying hystaricly. Ty had passed at around 3:00 in the morning from internal bleeding. What had happened was that Ty was 3 and slept on the bottom bunk, and his sister Jaqlynn who is 6 was sleeping on the top bunk and in the middle of the night somehow the bed slipped crushing Ty's head, he was unconcious....This has been a blow to my life he was so young, yet to even start his life and have it taken away reminds us that tommorrow isn't promised, his funeral is going to be on Saturday. It makes me wonder if there is a god, and if there is how can he be SO FUCKED UP!?!?! I mean my world is upside down, and in shambles How can such a young innocent young kid pass away? I loved him so much he only lived about an hour away, and was the sweetest kid ever. But I needed SOMEONE to talk to, and its easier online because of my tears, please don't bash me, if you don't have nothing nice to say at a time like this just please don't say anything i just feel better talking about it....I mean I have lost all faith in there being a god. What is life? Why is it so fragile?

I know there will be people who say I want attention, when all I'm seeking is someone to talk to about the biggest tragedy in my YOUNG life. Thank you all.



This past halloween, his dad is a dophilns fan


Him and his puppy Lacy


Ty after he got in trouble!


He was normally a happy kid. I love him. TY I will ALWAYS MISS YOU AND LOVE YOU BUDDY!

[Bretsky]

My deepest sympathies Mazzin.

It's hard to explain in words or thought how something like this can occur. I don't know what your view of me is, but if you want to vent, chat, or talk about it...just to release the feelings, feel free to PM me.

Again, my most sincere sympathies.

B

[PaCkFan_n_MD]

Mazzin am sorry for your loss.

Your nephew looked like a very cute kid. I hope you do find god during this hard time because it will help you get through this. Stay stong and make sure that you and your sister are there for each other.

[Brando19]

I know it's hard to understand, but everything happens for a reason...God does things for a reason. I'm so sorry for your loss and will pray for you and your family. Believe he is in heaven.

[KYPack]

Hang in there Maz.

He looks like a super sweet kid.

My deepest sympathy.

Try to keep an even temperment during this tough time.

KY

[BallHawk]

Mazzin, my deepest sympathies for your lost. It's so horrible to lose them at that age, because their life hasn't even begun to flourish.

I don't know what religion you are, or how strongly your beliefs are. But in the face of tragedy, denouncing God isn't going to get you anywhere. It's my personal belief, that God doesn't control everything. He created the Earth, but the progression of the human race, the human mind, and the laws of physics, aren't in the control of God.

At some points in life, something great happens and you rejoice in God, you're joyous and happy. Yet when something bad happens, you're angry at God and you're confused. It's so hard to get over something like this, and most probably you never get completely get over these things.

But remember the good times with him; the smiles, the laughs, the joy.

There's the famous saying, "Don't remember for how they died, remember for how they lived."

And you should do just that, Ashley. Celebrate the life and celebrate the memories.

My Prayers are with you, your family, and all others this tragedy has affected.

Sincerely,
Josh

[MadtownPacker]

You have my deepest sympathy Mazzin. I can't imagine losing someone so small. I wish you and your family the strength to get through this time.

[jack's smirking revenge]

What a tragic loss Mazzin. I'm so very sorry. I can't imagine losing something so precious.

(*insert hug here*)

tyler

[GrnBay007]

What a sweetheart, those pictures are adorable! You have my sympathy mazzin...hang in there.

[woodbuck27]

Mazzin my deepest sympathy and pain for you and your Family's terrible and sudden loss of Ty. I feel certain pain for you.

This will be a very difficult time for your Sis Jamie and take wisdom in this.

Try your BEST Dear, to be ALL there and very strong for Jamie, in spite of your OWN grief and pain.

I suggest to you that you can summon up that strength, by praying to GOD. He won't let YOU down Mazzin.

God never gives us more than we can't handle.

At times like this we may question God and feel confusion or anger.

Pray to GOD and express yourself. Get it out, but please end asking for HIS will for you .. HIS strength to lend that to your sister over the next few days and beyond.

Jamie will be in some shock from today through the funeral, hopefully. Give Mazzin.. Jamie and your Family, your warmth as they will need it., as she has to attend to all that accompany's such loss. It will all be a whirl for her from now through the funeral.

Consider this Mazzin:

Your nephew was suddenly taken from YOU and Jamie Yet rejoice in the brief and lovely memories that you shared with Ty. Be grateful for those wonderful yet brief times, as they are what remains with YOU, inside of you. Cherish Ty in those memories.

This is very sad news Mazzin.I just prayed for you and your Familys strength.

Here is something special for YOU Mazzin:

Ty has been entrusted in GOD's gentle care now Mazzin. I asked GOD to be there for YOU and your Family and to please take strength in this fact. That is OUR Faith.

God's GRACE and LOVE for you is eternal. He will give YOU ... all you will need Mazzin, to support your Sister and Family member's through this extremely sudden loss.

Here's a prayer for YOU Mazzin.

Compassionate and loving God, yours is the beauty of childhood and yours is the fullness of years. Comfort Mazzin and her Family in their sorrow; strengthen all of them with hope, and breathe peace into their troubled
hearts.

Assure all Family member's. That the love they had for Ty was not in vain - indeed make it a part of the store of goodness you are even now pouring out upon her in your eternal kingdom.

Help Mazzin to bless you for the gift you gave her in Ty's brief life here, for the joy he gave all who knew him, for the memories
that will abide with them, and for the assurance that Ty lives forever in
the joy and peace of your presence.

Guide Mazzin and her Family and friends through this time of sadness
with the light of your eternal Love and the strength of your compassion -

I ask these simple things in the name of Christ Jesus my Lord. Amen.

PEACE Mazzin

[Mazzin]

You guys! Thank you so much, all the sweet messages make me resent myself for being evil towards you all, deep inside we all really care even if we want to say we don't. I was rude to you guys, (dosen't matter who started what) and you guys are still here for me like my little internet family. I can't really talk to anyone in the family about how i feel, because everyone gets all choked up and we can't belive it, when I go up there saturday, its going to be too sad and weird, pulling up and expecting my little buddy to come out and run and give his only Aunt a HUGE HUG, and him not be there, i mean just his presence brought joy to all of us. I mean i feel like a HORRIBLE aunt, i only took him and his sister to the movies and hung out once (disney movie) and babysat them alot, but at times when i was tough on my lil man, i shouldn't have been, now i regret them, he was SOO precious. Thank you all, I'm sorry I'm an ass clown sometimes...i appreciate all of you.

[MJZiggy]

Talk to who you need to talk to; cry when it comes. Ask why, yell, scream, do whatever you need to do to grieve. Hang tight with your sis and talk about him if you need to even if there will be tears. Only you guys can figure out the right thing to do, but do it together.

It's really easy to blame yourself for what you should or shouldn't have done, but the fact is that the little guy was loved and knew it. Put a picture on your wall and tell everyone who sees it who that cute little kid is. My condolences.

[Harlan Huckleby]

so sad. i expect you'll be comfort to your sister.

[ahaha]

My heart goes out to you and your family. I don't believe in God, so I won't try to tell you he'll make everything better. Only time can do that, and leave you with the bittersweet memory of love lost. Take comfort in the fact that this child's life, however brief, mattered. He enriched yours and your family's life.

[Kiwon]

Mazzin,

I’m sorry for your loss. It is a tragedy. Your nephew looked like a beautiful child. I hope that you will sense God's presence and His love for you and your family during this time.

Is there a God? Of course there is and I think you already know this.

Why did God allow this to happen? That's is a much harder question. Pain and suffering are as much part of life as happiness, joy, and love. When we demand to know “why” we are really asking for justification for things that God allows to take place. We are rarely going to be satisfied with the conclusions we come to at first, however, often times, later on we can see God's goodness and mercy.

Personally, I have a relative that lost the love of his life, his only granddaughter, through a tragic accident and it became the most important event of his life. His life was transformed for the better through this gut-wrenching experience. I have also seen my Korean friend go through a very similar experience and today is a totally different person (in a good sense). Tragedy happens to everyone on one level or the other. The key point is how we respond to it.

Rather than look for answers here and getting everyone's opinions, I think the better approach is to spend time alone with God in prayer and reading His Word. God is more than capable of revealing Himself to you if that's what you really want. Here are two Scriptures for you to consider: Isaiah 55:6-9 and John 3:16.

Mazzin, it’s hard right now, but above all remember this; God knows what it's like to lose a son. In fact, He asked His Son to voluntarily sacrifice His life for us (mankind) so that He could have an eternal relationship with us. Why? - Because of His love for us.

Now here's a truly profound "why" question: Why does God love us so much that at the greatest personal cost to Himself (the sacrifice of His Son) that He would make available to us the most extravagant gifts imaginable (the forgiveness of sins, salvation and the gift of eternal life)? Now that is a profound question that we all should stop and ponder.

I’ll be praying for you and your family over the next several days. I hope that you can find some real comfort and peace very soon.