WHY?????

[Noodle]

I'm a religious person, despite being liberal, but I couldn't agree more with MJ's advice (as usual). You have every right to question everything. If I make it to heaven, the first thing I'll ask is why the little ones? I've gone through some things like this, and I've never received a good answer. I keep my faith, as you too will likely do, but there is no good answer.

As other folks have said, I know you'll be there for your sister. It's the best gift you can give your sweet nephew. Be there for his Mommy. That'll make him smile.

[Mazzin]

I can't sleep guys, I'm just laying up thinking about that lil guy and i can't help but just think angry thoughts, like why would someone so innocent, and not doing anything except sleeping in his own bed be taken from this earth, it just makes me wonder, is life really about just finding your happiness, and living it till you die? No one has to answer, im just venting out, I mean i lay up all night crying, i can't imagen my sister, and her husband.....this is just not a good situation.

[SD GB fan]

Mazzin I am sorry to hear this and my deepest sympathy goes out for you.

It is always bad to hear this stuff, especially for someone so young. My brother actually passed away over a year ago and he was 3 as well. To this day, they still do not know what caused his initial illness but he apparently died from a bacteria infection inside the hospital. Our family was very sad and pissed. But we are starting to recovery now and I wish you and your family the best as well. My prayers go out to you.

[GrnBay007]

Sorry for your loss SD GB.

[Scott Campbell]

Damn, I'm sorry Mazzin.

[oregonpackfan]

I also express my deepest sympathy for you Mazzin.

In '97, my nephew passed away due to a rare form of blood cancer. As my sister(9 kids in our family) come for a large, exteneded Irish Catholic background, it affected many family members.

Grief counselors observe that the loss of a child is the most painful loss anyone can endure. Be there for your sister now and important dates in the future.

My sister still observes her late son's birthdays and death days. Remember those dates and be with her on those dates. She will appreciate it.

You have already received excellent advice from posters like Woodbuck, Kiwon, MJ. Print out their posts and keep them in a scrapbook. Read them over again and again when you get depressed. I trust it will give you comfort.

Be good to yourself, Mazzin.

Oregonpackfan

[the_idle_threat]

I'm sorry to hear this Mazz, and I wish you and your family the best.

[red]

sorry mazz

thats really horrible

[HarveyWallbangers]

Sorry to hear about your loss. You'll need to be the rock for your sister.

[Zool]

Maz

A loss of this size is unimaginable to anyone who hasnt experienced it. I cant even imagine if I lost someone so close to me and I wish you and your family all the strength in the world to get through this.

My thoughts are with you.

[woodbuck27]

Mazzin:

When I awoke this AM my first thoughts were for YOU Dear. I am so very sorry for "the Loss" in your Family's Life.

Your sister will have a very difficult time with this and certainly will need all 'the LOVE" you can muster lend "in support for her and your brother in law."

Please be aware... that a loss such as this. Often tears a couple apart ,as they grieve "in seperate ways" and that often has repurcussions that are tragic as they try to deal with the loss of your little buddy Ty.

It's what we offer to today that enables OUR better tomorrows, Mazzin.

Blessings and strength to YOU, Mazzin.

My name is Ed.

[Badgepack]

My deepest sympathy for you Mazzin.




"I'll send you for a little time
A child of mine, He said,
For you to love the while he lives
And mourn for when he's dead.

It may be forty or fifty years,
Or even two or three
But will you, till I call him back,
Take care of him, for me?

He'll bring his charms to gladden you,
And should his stay be brief,
You'll have his lovely memories
As solace for your grief.

I cannot promise he will stay,
Since all from earth return,
But there are lessons taught down there
I want this child to learn.

I've looked this wide world over
In my search for teachers true.
And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes
I have selected you.

Now, will you give him all your love,
Nor think the labor vain,
Nor hate me when I come to call
To take him back again."

I fancied that I heard him say,
'Dear Lord thy will be done.'
For all the joy thy child shall bring,
The risk of grief we'll run.


We'll shelter him with tenderness,
We'll love him while we may
And for the happiness we've known,
Forever grateful stay.

But should the angels call for him
Much sooner than we've planned,
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes,
And try to understand."

Author Unknown

[Tyrone Bigguns]

Where are services being held. Perhaps we could send some flowers.

[Mazzin]

that poem, brought me to tears, thank you guys once again for being so great to me, even though i have been a poop head alot of times....they want the service, to be small, and quick, but thank you anyways, ir eally do appreciate everyone that has showed to care, i love you guys for it

[Mazzin]

I went into work with me today, and hung up a 6x9 picture of Ty, so I could have him with me. Anyways all of my kids made me little letters, of how they all loved ty, and that they are sorry for us...and some of them wrote get well soon (they are 4-5 so they didn't understand) but i took them all and that was VERY touching. Im going to give them all to My sister and brother in law, because their suffering has to be 1000 X's as much as mine and i shouldn't be selfish, it should be all about them.

I've noticed we are all like kids in a way, which is a good thing i think. It's like no matter what even if you hate the person, if something tragic happens you come together, and forget the past, and i can't thank you all enough for that!