I'm getting a divorce

[mraynrand]

maybe you felt like you were missing out on the bachelor life when all your single friends were nailing the fat girls at the bar.

Do you like cake?

Do you like my ass?

Do you want to eat cake off my ass?

Now there's a line I've never tried...

This is working it's way towards the garbage can.

[LL2]

I voted "care". I can't imagine what it would be like to go through a divorce. I know some here may think this is stupid, but with my wife and I divorce is not an option. Don't believe in it. There are some situation that warrant it (e.g. abuse, drugs, etc.). I guess our approach suits us, so I can't relate to what your going through.

[4and12to12and4]

Fuck it didn't work I am sure you tried, although I can tell you have lived the better part of married life with resentment to the fact that you got married in the first place, maybe you felt like you were missing out on the bachelor life when all your single friends were nailing the fat girls at the bar.

Reading what you wrote, it is hard to believe that you ever grew apart, it seems that you were mostly unhappy in your marriage and there was nothing to ever rekindle.

Your kids are probably smart enough to realize that the "Big D" is coming, Don't give them any false hope, crush it before the holidays.

Holy Shit Nutz, you hit it on the button, I told my sister the day I was getting married, I didn't want to go through with it, but at age 20, didn't have the common sense or the balls to just end it. But, you were dead on that there was nothing from the start, the sex was good the first couple of years, cuz she's really hot, but that's all there ever was. She's a conservative Baptist, who goes to church 4 times a week and think that beer is evil, and our ideologies are completely different. I'm an agnostic for Christ's sake. Christ forgive me for blasphemy if you're truly the Son of God.

Anyways, telling the kids before Christmas has crossed my mind, but it just seems right to let them enjoy Christmas, one daughters birthday is December 7th, the others is January 2nd, and I was gonna wait til all these things were over, in case they take it hard, I don't wanna ruin those dates for them. Although my gut says they are gonna be happy. I even asked my youngest daughter (age 15) what she thought about us getting divorced about two months ago and she said, " I wouldn't care, a lot of my friends' parents are divorced, and if it makes you guys happier than do it, but I don't want Mom to have full coverage." Wow. What a response. But, tell them before the holidays and birthdays? What is everyone's opinion on that?

[MJZiggy]

If you're not going anywhere until February, what's the rush? Then you have everyone walking around on eggshells waiting for it for 2 months.

[4and12to12and4]

If you're not going anywhere until February, what's the rush? Then you have everyone walking around on eggshells waiting for it for 2 months.

That's what my wife and I thought, but Nutz had me wondering if I was wrong.
But, he IS Nutz ... so

[Deputy Nutz]

If you're not going anywhere until February, what's the rush? Then you have everyone walking around on eggshells waiting for it for 2 months.

That's what my wife and I thought, but Nutz had me wondering if I was wrong.
But, he IS Nutz ... so

Here is the deal, maybe your kids realize that they also will be happier without their parents being married, maybe they already realize that their parents are getting divorced, you felt the need to bring it up o one of your daughters, and she basically feels "whatever", divorce is now a custom practiced nearly as much as marriage itself, kids are drowned out by divorce which is unfortunate for society.

So with taking that in account you can probably wait through the holidays to tell them since I believe that your kids already have the 6th sense about their parents relationship. Just don't over do it and make them have second thoughts about their parents marriage.

[4and12to12and4]

If you're not going anywhere until February, what's the rush? Then you have everyone walking around on eggshells waiting for it for 2 months.

That's what my wife and I thought, but Nutz had me wondering if I was wrong.
But, he IS Nutz ... so

Here is the deal, maybe your kids realize that they also will be happier without their parents being married, maybe they already realize that their parents are getting divorced, you felt the need to bring it up o one of your daughters, and she basically feels "whatever", divorce is now a custom practiced nearly as much as marriage itself, kids are drowned out by divorce which is unfortunate for society.

So with taking that in account you can probably wait through the holidays to tell them since I believe that your kids already have the 6th sense about their parents relationship. Just don't over do it and make them have second thoughts about their parents marriage.

Well Nutz, I just took my youngest daughter aside (we have a special close relationship) and made her promise she wouldn't tell anyone, and I told her, and she said, "Good, I hate it when you and Mom are home at the same time, I can't wait". Wow. But, she is 15, and probably doesn't understand the difficulties we will all be dealing with, but at least she's on board for right now.

[4and12to12and4]

If you're not going anywhere until February, what's the rush? Then you have everyone walking around on eggshells waiting for it for 2 months.

That's what my wife and I thought, but Nutz had me wondering if I was wrong.
But, he IS Nutz ... so

Here is the deal, maybe your kids realize that they also will be happier without their parents being married, maybe they already realize that their parents are getting divorced, you felt the need to bring it up o one of your daughters, and she basically feels "whatever", divorce is now a custom practiced nearly as much as marriage itself, kids are drowned out by divorce which is unfortunate for society.

So with taking that in account you can probably wait through the holidays to tell them since I believe that your kids already have the 6th sense about their parents relationship. Just don't over do it and make them have second thoughts about their parents marriage.

Well Nutz, I just took my youngest daughter aside (we have a special close relationship) and made her promise she wouldn't tell anyone, and I told her, and she said, "Good, I hate it when you and Mom are home at the same time, I can't wait". Wow. But, she is 15, and probably doesn't understand the difficulties we will all be dealing with, but at least she's on board for right now.

If my wife finds out I told her, I'm dead. I must be Nutz!!

[mraynrand]

You opened the can, now finish the job. Tell your wife immediately. You don't keep secrets like that with the kid(s). I have a feeling you will all have better birthdays and a better Christmas or if you're really agnostic, a blessed winter solstice.

Besides, Retailguy has been waiting for your wife to become available, and I bet he's getting antsy, especially since you described your wife as hot and the sex as being good.

[MJZiggy]

Mr Rand here makes a good point. And check your pm for gods sakes.

[Harlan Huckleby]

I'd just say if you think you are pregnant, you definitely should tell your boyfriend right away.

[Deputy Nutz]

I'd just say if you think you are pregnant, you definitely should tell your boyfriend right away.

Or have an abortion and then feel free to tell him over some pate'.

[retailguy]

You opened the can, now finish the job. Tell your wife immediately. You don't keep secrets like that with the kid(s). I have a feeling you will all have better birthdays and a better Christmas or if you're really agnostic, a blessed winter solstice.

Besides, Retailguy has been waiting for your wife to become available, and I bet he's getting antsy, especially since you described your wife as hot and the sex as being good.

You took my point just a tad bit out of context, Rand, but hey, that's ok. If I brought her home, or my wife found out, shed'd kill both her and me and that would create more problems that 4-12 to 12-4 doesn't need.

I don't have even one understanding wife like Scott Campbell has....

'Course Justin/Nick would be pretty happy if my wife offed me... :P

[retailguy]

I'd just say if you think you are pregnant, you definitely should tell your boyfriend right away.

Or have an abortion and then feel free to tell him over some pate'.

If it were me, I'd immediately post here for some substantive opinions.... 'Course if i were pregnant, man, I'd have a few other problems, and quite a bit of money from the National Enquirer....

[Harlan Huckleby]

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